The woman in question had been living with her boyfriend for the past two years, but when he broke up with her last March, she needed a place to stay. Her aunt, who is 32 years old, then offered her to stay in a spare room at her and her 35-year-old boyfriend’s home. “She lives with her boyfriend, whom she has known since they were together in college,” the woman says.
“He’s wonderful and has been so helpful in recent months,” she continues, mentioning as an example that he helped her move furniture. “But last month, when my aunt was away for the weekend, everything went haywire. Neither her boyfriend nor I had any plans for the evening, so we got some food and watched a movie together.”
The woman says they decided to watch a romantic comedy, and the movie made her cry. “He found it funny, pulled me close, and hugged me. After a few minutes, I calmed down, but neither of us moved away from the hug,” she says, and shortly after, they kissed.
“I don’t know who kissed whom first, but I think we both did it. We both pulled away now and then because we knew what we were doing was wrong, but there was something between us. We ended up having sex on the sofa; it was incredible.”
Then the woman says that nothing has happened between them since, as they both said they couldn’t do it again. “He has been avoiding me since, but I can’t stop thinking about him. I think I’m falling for him,” the woman says and then asks me what she should actually do. “Should I tell him? Should I see if he feels the same?”
I respond, warning her against stealing her aunt’s boyfriend. She says that given how the aunt’s boyfriend is behaving, he seems to know that what happened was wrong. “If he’s keeping his distance and hasn’t done anything since, it looks like he knows you both made a mistake. You also have to ask yourself – are you really attracted to him, or are you attracted to the feeling of another man wanting you?” I said.
I then advised the woman to find another place to live to distance herself more from her aunt’s boyfriend. “It will help you get over him,” she says, emphasizing that the woman should not “steal” her aunt’s boyfriend.
“Your aunt has been very kind to you – stealing her boyfriend would be a slap in her face and would cause more problems within your family.”
